"A dysregulated adult cannot regulate a dysregulated child. "
It is vital for individuals who work with children to implement self-care practices in their own life so that they may better support the children around them. Dr. Clayton Cook described life variables that may cause reactions to external factors as "lighter fluid" and the "matches" are trigger moments where one loses control. It is important that adults identify their "lighter fluid" and "matches" first, and then they can help their students identify theirs as well.
What are your most common canisters of lighter fluid (internal)? Overtired, hungry, stress, conflicts, etc.
What are your matches (external)? Classroom disruptions, students/colleagues blurting out, perceived disrespect, off-task behaviors, etc.
When students walk into school, the adults around need to help "wash the lighter fluid off" because school is filled with a ton of matches! Adults need to practice, and help each other, wash their "lighter fluid" off as well.
When students have adults at home who they don't trust, they look for signs to distrust other adults as well. Building relationships with students who have ACEs is vital to their ability to be successful in school!
Get to know your students - take 2 minutes a day to talk to a student about anything except school work
Use index cards with interest inventory. Pull out one card a day and talk to that kid about his/her interests.
Make home visits, if and when possible
Attend students' extracurricular events
To maintain positive relationships, an administrator and/or teacher should strive for the 5:1 positive to negative interactions ratio as described above. It is also helpful to establish routines and procedures that can minimize, or even eliminate, negative interactions.
Grace Dearborn , Douglas Fisher, and Nancy Frey have published several books on proven routines and procedures that can help reduce negative interactions. Here are a few strategies you can implement in your classroom:
Silent Circulation Cards
Consider ~4 phrases you find yourself saying repeatedly when you circulate the classroom - Write those phrases on a small card and place it on a student's desk as necessary. This removes the need for you to vocalize the need for redirection and takes the negative attention away from the student you're redirecting while still accomplishing the same goal.
Ex. Focus, shhhhh, on task/watch the time, materials, name/heading, sit, etc.
Help students identify when they need your assistance as well. Students can keep cards at their desk to use if they have a request for teacher support. This reduces the need for students to raise their hand; taking away a possible negative attention, resolving the fear some students have in raising their hand for help, and eliminating the need keep their hand raised until the teacher is available. Additionally, students will be able to continue with that assignment or other work while waiting for the teacher. Assistance cards also help students become more aware of what they need, which has a positive effect on cognitive regulation. These cards also simply help minimize class disruptions.
Ex. Directions (Doesn't understand the directions), feedback need (completed some work and needs feedback), skill (needs help using a skill that was just taught), etc.
Identify urgency tasks:
When working with high anxiety students, it is very important to identify urgency tasks. If it is unclear whether a task is urgent or not, then taking anxious students out of the task can increase their stress because the student will feel as if they did not meet the teacher's goal.
Reducing to the "I don't know" anxious response:
Use follow-up responses...
Okay, you don't know yet. What do you know? (If student still says IDK...)
Okay, but pretend you do know, what would you say? (If student still says IDK...)
Ask them question(s) about the topic that you know they can answer.
Giving students a chance to give a correct answer helps reduce anxiety to answer questions
Establishing success criteria:
At the beginning of a lesson/unit share with students
What are we learning today?
Why are we learning it?
How will I know I learned it?
Display levels of student work so that students can independently gauge where they are and where they need to go.
Pictures of Procedures:
It is impossible to over-teach procedures. Think about this... Every single time we get on an airplane, the flight attendant goes over the safety procedures and the plane doesn't leave until we follow the procedures. The same should be true for the classroom.
Visual references remove ambiguity and misconceptions while also supporting those students who need visual cues for processing, especially multi-step directions.
Procedure pictures should either be posted in their relevant location/context (Ex. above the sink) or should be pulled out/posted when needed. Do NOT leave procedure pictures posted on the walls in your classroom without context.
By : Dan Tricarico
Zen is defined as noticing the world exactly as it is - free from judgement and detached from anticipated outcomes. The following list are 5 zen practices, as described by educator and author Dan Tricarico, that can be used by administration, teachers, and students to help regulate their mind and body:
Invite possibilities:
View experiences through a beginners mind
Be open to change, learning, and new possibilities
Be vulnerable
Consider your students (peers) perspectives
Learn from your students (each other)
It's okay not to know. Try.
Maintain a growth mindset
Fixed mindset - I avoid challenges vs. Growth mindset - I embrace challenges
Create acceptance:
Accept the moment "as is"
Detach yourself from anticipated outcomes
"Be one with your toast" - Toast doesn't always come out perfectly toasted and buttered, but it is what it is... There will be more toast.
Compassion and Gratitude:
Utilize gratitude rituals/sentences/mantras
Consider: What is the most generous assumption I can make about this person
Why are they acting like that? What might they be going through that I don't know about? Assume there is something because there usually is.
Do your best to do everything through kindness and love
Have self compassion - Have grace and forgive yourself
Practice mindfulness:
Use your senses - I see... I hear... I feel...
Find the detail - Focus your attention on the details around you
Be HERE now - Have present moment awareness
Keep waking up - We don't usually exist in a constant state of mindfulness, but you can keep waking up to it (Mindfulness vs. Mindlessness)
Cultivate personal space: 5 Ss
Space
Silence - Look for places in your day when you can create a bit of silence for yourself
Stillness - Look for places in your day when you can create a bit of stillness for yourself
Subtraction - What is one task/obligation/idea that you can take off your place or let go?
Slow down
Stop, take a breath, observe what you're feeling, and proceed positively
Neurologist Dr. Daniel Siegel summarized the benefits of these practices by saying, "Where the attention goes, neural firing flows, and neural connection grows." By utilizing mindful, zen practices and sharing these practices with our students, shifts in neural activation and attention create opportunities to alter the internal neural firings that shape not only the activity in the brain in the moment, but also alter the long-term structural connections in the brains of those engaged in the interactions.
"When the bum is dumb, the brain is the same!"
Direct instruction should never be more than the number of minutes of the age of the student, up to 12 minutes, without a 60-90 second break.
This isn't to say that all direct instruction should be 12 minutes or less. This means that for every 5-12 minutes, students should have a chance to stretch and/or process.
Quick activities to check-in and break up instruction:
Pencils, stick figures, GO - Summarized what you just learned
Create ~3 titles for a book based on what you just learned
If you were absent for the last 5-12 minutes and you needed me to tweet you what you missed, what would you need me to tweet? Include a hashtag (#) and an at (@). (See image below.)
Tweet extension: Students can trade tweets laster and write a short paragraph explaining the tweet
Write a 5 word summary
Quick round table discussion
Write a song
Give song options like Row Your Boat, Twinkle LIttle Star, Jingle Bells, Baby Got Back, etc., or student choice - Give students up to 30 secs to choose a song.
For younger students or accommodation support, teacher can start the song and students can fill in the blanks or complete the sentences.
Visual tagging - Choose an object/thing (related to the topic or randomly crazy) and have students compare what they just learned to the noun given.
Question! - Imagine I was going to give a pop quiz right now, what are ~3 questions I would ask and what are the answers?
Question? - What is one question you have about what we are learning? It could be a clarify question or an extension question.
Answer /Echo - If a student is the echo, they stand up and repeat the answer another student gives.
Choose an echo - great for students who don't often raise their hand due to anxiety, need differentiated support, or may not have been paying attention. (Of course, don't call the student out for not paying attention, simply make them the echo.)
Ask a question to the rest of the class and call on someone to answer. Then, the echo repeats the answer.
A-B teams - switch-up who starts where A = after / B = Before
To most bad behavior, there is an antecedent. It is important to keep this in mind when we approach bad behavior and behavior intervention plans. Most commonly, challenging students are challenging because they lack the skills to not be challenging. Therefore, the bad behavior is the signal by which a child communicates that he or she is having difficulty maintaining certain expectations. You can think about this in the context of adults or children. If you throw an expectation at an adult in the workplace and they don't have the skills to meet that expectation, they would look "bad" too. Getting to the bottom of bad behavior means looking past the symptom and understanding the problem behind the behavior.
Psychologist Ross Greene developed an intervention plan that looks at patterns in behaviors and guides a deeper look what missing skill set or what problem may be driving the behaviors: The intervention is called an "Assessment of Lagging Skills and Unsolved Problems." You can find more about ALSUP and additional collaborative proactive solutions by clicking the "Challenging Behaviors" link at the bottom of this page.
Part of the ALSUP process is gathering information from observed behaviors and from speaking with the child who is having the problems. Start by showing empathy and gather information from the student. If he or she is resistant to talking, use means of communication that reduce the need to speak. For example, use a chart that has "YES" or "NO" written on it and the student can point OR ask for a thumbs up or down to yes or no questions.
Once the problem has been identified, invite the student to collaborate on possible solutions. Again, for students who are non-verbal or resistant to talking, a picture chart to point to could be a means of getting student input.
Language example: A mom and her daughter came into Dr. Greene's office for a session and they were upset about dinner from the night before. Both the mom and the daughter explained their frustrations and Dr. Greene asked the daughter, "You don't want any holes poked in your pot pie and your mom doesn't want you to burn your mouth. Do you have any ideas on how to solve this problem?" (The little girl suggested taking the whole top off so it was still in tact for her to eat and the inside of the pot pie could still come off). This solution worked for both parties and gets the by-in from the daughter because it was her solution.